Say there is an argument. Say one person is emotional – cries even – and the other person just stares back. Does that mean person one cares and the other person doesn’t?
Say there is an argument. This argument is either different from the first or the same damned argument. It can be extended from the first, totally indifferent about the first but stemming from the same root cause(s), or be totally different people and/or topic(s). If one person never wants to hash it out, does that person not care?
If one stops speaking to the other person in this second (or extended first) scenario, does that mean that the now-gone-by-choice person never cared about the issue/person even when it seemed that they did? What about the other person?
Think deeper. For a moment. Less dust on the cop cars.
Did the newly silent person just not care about the other person? Could they have? Truly?
What about convenience?
What about money or prestige?
How do these play roles with those questions above?
What if they pay someone of to go away because they wish to “save face?”
What if they really are psycho? Or better put, they simply have no (or feel no) empathy towards those they affect?
What if the interactions or relationship(s) is(are) new?. What then?
Are people who are indifferent to important matters or indifferent to others (the indifferent people being people in the stonewalled person’s life – the person lacking empathy – and with whom that non-empathetic individual holds significant history but can no longer communicate), are those people psychological damaged?
What does that then do to the dissed/cut off people?
Say you never resolve anything from it. Is nothing actually resolved?
Can “normal,” healthy people actually ignore what they cause or caused including severe suffering to others (be they people or otherwise)?
Does it affect them?
Is this always true?
How about when you no longer speak. What does that mean? Is one person “above” it, or are they simply fooling themselves?
What about the person for whom the situation continues to be personally affecting?
Does anything truly get resolved in life? Or is this just one big annoying frustrating bag/pile of crap within which we navigate?
Can we ever actually cut the crap?
When I’m well rested will I find lots of spelling/auto-“correct,” grammar, or other errors making this already difficult to follow entry even harder to follow? And, against my belief, will there actually be comments made from this teaser?
- Paul Bloom: The case against empathy. (newyorker.com)